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- We cherish all your concerns.
Nationwide concern contest.
- Let me introduce our guests today.
A charismatic model, Park Dool-sun.
Gyul-gyung and Si-yeon from Pristin.
- We are Pristin.
Hello, we are Pristin.
- Since you came on our show,
can you tell us what kind of concerns you tell each other?
- Our team has 10 members,
so we all have our own concerns and I...
- You listen to all the concerns? - Yes, I do.
- So Pristin needs Gyul-gyung. - Of course.
- It's really important to listen to other people's concerns.
- I used to be very old-fashioned,
so I would try to give a solution when someone had a concern.
- A solution. - Yes, I tried to give a clear answer.
But as I grew up, I realized that
it's better to just listen to the concerns
and let them do what they want.
So I ended up being a listener. - That's good.
- What about Si-yeon? - I listen to concerns about patience.
I'm 18 years old and I spent 9 years, half of my life, as a trainee.
- Huh?
- Since you were 9 years old?
- I debuted this year.
- Did you want to become a singer since you were very young?
- I used to sing 'Oh My Goodness' when I was little. - Really?
- Yes. - You were full of talent.
- 1, 2, 3, 4.
- Oh my, oh my, don't do this to me.
-What a smile.
- Please sing your new song.
- We have 3 concerns today.
Let's look at the titles.
- 'Fake husband'
'I want to break it'
'Pretty please'
Hello.
I'm a wife-to-be, getting married this May.
My wedding is approaching soon,
but I'm spending every day debating if I should marry my fiancé.
- Are you drunk?
- Because I'm too worried
about my fiancé who is 7 years younger than me.
- 7 years younger?
- She's good. - A husband that's 7 years younger.
- How nice.
- The problem is that he is so into someone else.
- Fiancé...
- Wow, look at that chic face.
A sexy body.
That's so my style.
The person that my fiancé is so into is not a woman,
but a male model, Bae Jung-nam.
- Oh, Bae Jung-nam.
- Wasn't he on this show?
He is very attractive.
- How is this hat with my outfit today? This hat.
Don't I look just like Bae Jung-nam?
This facial expression right now No?
This facial expression looks just like Bae Jung-nam, right?
How is it?
All he talks about is Bae Jung-nam!
He is not satisfied with
wearing the same clothes.
"Something's still missing."
"Honey, can you help me?"
"With what?"
"Look at Bae Jung-nam's face."
"He has a scar on his eyebrow."
"Can you cut my skin right here?"
- "What?"
- Should I really marry a fake Bae Jung-nam?
Please help me.
- Do you guys have a role model?
- Our role model is Girl's Generation... - Girl's Generation.
- I want Dool-sun's body.
She has great style. But not the face.
- You want to keep your face?
- Yes.
- That's a bit weird. - That's...
- Please blur right here.
We have great technology these days.
- You mean crop.
Here's a wife-to-be who is worried because of her fiancé.
Please come out.
- He seems to be acting very strange
but you still decided to marry him?
- Yes. - This is my last resort.
- We finally got the permission from our parents to get married.
But I'm not sure if I'm marrying my fiancé Yang Taek-gi or
a fake Bae Jung-nam.
- He must be really into Bae Jung-nam. - Yes.
For starters, he copies the accessories, hair style and outfits
that Bae Jung-nam wears. - He copies them.
- And the dog that Bae Jung-nam has.
- He has the same dog? - He has the same dog?
- He wants to get it.
He asked me for my opinion,
but I'm afraid of dogs. - Then he shouldn't get it.
You can't live with a dog if you are afraid of it.
- But he really wanted to get it. - And what else?
Was there anything else?
- We were watching a movie,
and I didn't know that Bae Jung-nam was in it.
And my fiancé would tell me,
"Hey look."
"There I am."
- It's an illness.
This is very serious. - I guess he really believes it's him.
- Bae Jung-nam was just driving.
With his arm like this.
Usually in wedding photo shoots, the bride has to stand out.
But he was acting like he was the star.
He even asked the photographer in advance for his solo shots.
- It's like an editorial. - Right.
He wanted a once-in-a-lifetime photo.
- I saw Bae Jung-nam's swimsuit photos too.
- He's very good looking. - His swimsuits are very short.
- Holding a fist. - Don't use your hands.
- This looks quite similar?
- This is pretty similar. - Wow.
Even his body looks like Bae Jung-nam.
- I was really surprised to hear about the scar, because Jung-nam really has a scar.
- He wanted me to make a scar.
- Just like his scar. - It looks very rough.
- You shouldn't cut your skin to look masculine.
- He tried a couple times and failed so he asked me...
- He tried on his own?
- Yes. When he failed, he asked me. - Isn't that self-injury?
- I couldn't do it.
I told him "I can't do this" and he kept nagging.
I got so angry.
I almost shaved off his eyebrows.
- You are short-tempered.
Let's meet her fiancé now.
Where's is he?
Yang Taek-gi. -hello.
- Hello.
- Can you stand up?
And turn around.
Wow...
- He has a special way of turning.
- He wears that hat a lot.
- Bae Jung-nam. - Bae Jung-nam?
- Yes, I even wear the same socks as him.
- Even socks ? - Take off your shoes.
- Since when did you copy Bae Jung-nam?
- Since I was 17 years old.
I'm 30 years old now.
I was really attracted when I saw him on a fashion show,
so I started to copy him...
- Since you were 17 years old? - Yes.
- What about your eyebrows?
Did you really want a scar like him?
- Even his scar looked stylish.
It looked very masculine so...
- But you shouldn't cut yourself.
- He really likes Bae Jung-nam.
- Do you practice to look like him at home?
- I practice a lot.
Someone has to help me.
A friend... - Yes.
- Poor friend.
Sitting beside him.
- Bae Jung-nam usually plays
a bodyguard or driver.
So his lines are short.
And I ask my friend to play a different role.
- Why is he so serious?
- Driver Bae, let's go.
- Okay. - Look at his facial expression.
- Let's go.
- Okay.
- What is that?
What is that?
- Was that similar?
- This is what you practice? - Yes.
This requires vocalization and abdominal breathing.
- What kind of vocalization?
- Okay.
- It has a little bit of nasal voice.
- Okay.
Okay.
- And the eyes.
- I think his eyes looked similar.
- The hands were a bit awkward though.
- I don't know what's up with the hands.
I thought it was Dr. Strange.
- That was really funny, right?
This was...
- Dr. Strange.
Let's look at some photos
where he copies Bae Jung-nam.
- Wow.
- Left is Bae Jung-nam and right is...
That's very extreme.
Such a hard work.
- Copying him in magazines.
- Light eyebrows.
- The left is Bae Jung-nam.
The right is...
- Wow.
He looks very similar there.
- In that picture, yes.
- But this is not so bad.
He's not harming anyone.
- Are you just here to brag?
- Not really.
He would lose 10-15kg a month to look like him. -15kg in a month?
- He wouldn't eat.
He says he's fine and tells me to eat. - Tells you to eat.
- So I would eat.
And he would get angry. - Why?
- He was like "How can you eat alone?" - How you could eat so well.
- I thought I'd get sick.
- You're not supposed to bother someone when they're eating.
- I wanted to be a model like Bae Jung-nam,
so I went on a diet.
And I actually came in 1st place for a Sports model.
I came in 1st place multiple times and I was a Baseball model too.
- So you feel accomplished. - I feel very accomplished.
- Are you in shape or not?
- This is my off season.
- Off season.
- You should follow Bae Jung-nam's pattern all year long if you love him so much.
- He is really amazing...
He is like god to me.
- God...
- I do have abs all year long though.
- You have abs?
- Yes. I have abs.
- Why don't you come on stage and pose.
- He has a good body.
- Where should I look? - Look in the front.
- Even his eyes...
- Nice butt. - 1st place.
Nice.
- Please show us.
Please turn around and face us.
Beautiful.
- He has a nice body.
- One more time.
Nice.
Great.
Nice.
- How was it? - I didn't think he would be muscular.
- Me too.
I think he has a good body proportion.
- I'm not sure if you all saw his hips,
but we did.
- This seems like bragging.
- He was a track and field athlete
until he was 20 years old.
- Really?
- But since he started growing muscles to look like Bae Jung-nam,
he started getting worse at it.
- At track and field.
- So he quit track and field.
- He quit.
- And he became a fitness trainer.
- Well, if he's a fitness trainer...
- He has a job then.
It would be a problem if he was jobless.
- Didn't he succeed then?
- He likes to post photos of him
wearing short clothes.
- He likes getting the attention. - He loves the attention.
- Hungry for attention. - Hungry for attention.
- He doesn't post any photos of me on his SNS.
- Oh no. - It would be nice if he .
- So upsetting. - Pretending like he's single...
- He even took a solo wedding photo.
- That's right.
Why are you doing that?
- It's my way of communication.
It's my personal space.
There are a lot of models out there with good bodies.
So I decided to take and
upload some photos of me.
- But you understand why your girlfriend is worried, right?
Why she's worried and nervous.
- I don't understand why.
- Wow.
- I'm more popular with men than women.
- Your followers? - Yes.
- So you think that your male followers
wouldn't like it if you posted photos with your fiancée?
- They won't.
The followers would drop. - They would drop?
- They would no longer see me as this model-like figure,
and I would just be a married man.
Something like that. - But they are men.
- That's nonsense.
- You're calling yourself a sold-out man.
- A sold-out man
- A married man with a nice body can be even more attractive.
- Honestly, you have
a lot of female fans too, right?
- Yes. Followers...
- Yes.
- You like it when people give you attention?
- I don't respond to it though...
- You don't respond at all?
- You really think you're a superstar.
- I think he's enjoying it.
- Let's talk with his friend,
who showed us great acting.
- I'm his co-worker, a fitness trainer as well.
- A fitness trainer.
I see.
- You don't understand him, right?
- He is obsessed.
From the moment he comes into work,
he brainwashes us that he is Bae Jung-nam.
- Really? Constantly.
- He even tells me to
ask our customers.
- To ask? - To ask.
I used to work out with him in the beginning.
But I spent more time taking his photos than I was exercising.
And he would bug me
until I liked his photo.
- He is obsessed with likes.
He is really hungry for attention.
- You must be worried that he is obsessed with SNS.
Right?
- You can't prepare for a wedding alone. - You need to do it together.
- He leaves everything up to me.
He's just busy uploading photos on his SNS.
Wedding photo shoot, honeymoon and wedding invitation.
I think he cares more about his SNS than me.
- What do you think?
About what your fiancée said. - Is it a misunderstanding or is it true?
- It's true.
- This is a problem then.
- Let me ask you a question.
Why did you leave all the wedding planning up to your fiancée?
- She's older than me so I thought she would do a better job...
- Were you feeling a bit lazy too?
- Yes.
- But you would post photos on SNS.
To show off to others. - You are energetic about that.
- Energetic.
- Can you stay off SNS
at least during your honeymoon?
- My fiancée asked not to do roaming for our honeymoon.
- Because she wants to spend some quality time together. - Yes.
I should look for free Wi-Fi.
- Wow.
- I think SNS is the bigger problem.
Bae Jung-nam is not the problem.
What else are you worried about?
Tell us everything.
- You can have troubles at your workplace.
He complains about everything.
He switched his job 4-5 times
just in a year and a half. - What?
He didn't work for one gym? - No.
- She must be really worried
if you keep changing your job.
Why do you switch gyms so often? - I get offers from different gyms.
- What?
I think it's strange that
you switch your workplace so often just because you get a lot of offers.
- I realized a lot of things as I moved around.
I think that I should open up my own gym
to take care of me and my wife.
- Did you think of a name yet?
- Not yet. - BJN.
- BJN Fitness. - That's good.
- What else can you say about yourself
other than Bae Jung-nam?
- Nothing.
- Wow. - Why?
Imagine yourself before you started copying Bae Jung-nam.
How were you back then? - I used to be very quiet and introverted.
Until I was in middle school,
I would
I would be like, "What? No."
I was very introverted.
And I was beaten up a lot by my older colleagues.
- You were in the track and field team.
- I couldn't be confident.
That's when I saw Bae Jung-nam.
I started to work out and as I gained muscles,
no one would pick on me.
And I made a lot of friends.
So that's how I came to respect him.
- He became a god.
- But I think you're still stuck in the past...
- Right. - When we copy someone...
- We need to go further. - In order to create something.
- Right. - But you're just stuck with Bae Jung-nam.
There's no 'Yang Taek-gi'.
- You need to find the true 'Yang Taek-gi'.
- Your fiancée decided to get married
to the person 'Yang Taek-gi',
but if you say that you're nothing but Bae Jung-nam...
Who was she in love with all this time?
She must feel so empty.
- He might look a little
sleazy from the outside at first.
But as I got to know him,
I saw his kind heart within.
- You saw his kind heart.
- Yes.
I'm not in love with him because he looks like Bae Jung-nam,
but because I like him for who he is.
- Him as 'Yang Taek-gi'? - That's right.
I hope you would go easy on SNS.
- Go easy.
- And I hope you live your life as yourself.
- As 'Yang Taek-gi'.
Your fiancée is asking you. Right?
Did you hear what she said?
Do you think you can do that?
- I'll try to go easy on SNS.
- You will?
The person you love so much.
Right?
You know who it is, right?
- Really?
- We have Bae Jung-nam on the phone.
- Really?
- It's a video call.
Bae Jung-nam.
- He succeeded.
- Wow.
- It's Bae Jung-nam! - Hello.
Hello Jung-nam.
Long time no see.
It's Bae Jung-nam. Say hi.
Hello.
- It's that dog.
That dog.
You heard everything, right?
- Yes, a little bit.
He did go a little too far.
- He did go a little too far.
- It is an honor for me.
And I feel thankful.
I think 7-8 people out of 10 fans are men.
He must be No.1 among them.
For liking me this much.
- But his fiancée is concerned about it.
- Wow, I...
I didn't live my life to do any harm.
- Do you feel a sense of shame?
- Yes.
- It's a shameful night.
- Why don't you two talk.
- Nice to meet you.
- You look a bit like me.
- Thank you.
It's an honor, really.
- I was like that too when I was younger.
I wanted to look masculine and tough.
But as I grew older, I realized
that's not what is important.
It's better to just relax, even look foolish sometimes,
so people find me more friendly.
- That's right.
- So I think that maybe
you should find your own life.
It'll be good for your future.
A movie I'm in, 'Sheriff', is coming out in May.
And I would like to invite you two to the movie premier.
- Jung-nam. - Nice way to promote your movie.
- What is your line in the movie?
- Tell us your line.
- I'm an air conditioner installer.
Wow, today is really
full of tension.
- Wow, that's a long line.
That's a long line.
Wow! - Thank you.
- Jung-nam, it was great to talk to you.
- Yes.
- It was really nice.
- His dog.
- We'll invite you to our show again.
- Okay, thank you.
- Please come on the show. - Good luck.
- How do you feel right now?
You just talked with your god. - Wow...
Umm...
Now, I'm starting to feel nervous.
- Now?
- I talked with Jung-nam many times on a different TV show.
He is a very responsible person,
and he definitely doesn't hurt someone that he loves.
Why don't you try to copy his inside, rather than his looks?
If you really like and respect him.
- He used to act cocky in the past.
But he let go of those things.
- Yes, he said that.
- And now, he is more down-to-earth, which makes him more attractive. - Right.
Did you hear that? You need to be down-to-earth.
You need to be yourself.
- Yes. - You got it?
- Yes.
- At first, I was jealous that you had a 7-year younger husband.
But if he's not interested in me...
- I feel like I'm in this all by myself.
Sometimes, I even feel as if
I have to lead you on.
I would love it if we could become
a husband and wife who does things together.
- Yes. - That's right.
- Let's start with Dool-sun.
It's a concern.
- Yes, it's a concern.
They're starting with an issue.
So I hope that they will try hard
to overcome the obstacle.
Everything will be okay then.
They love each other after all. - Right.
- I think it's a concern too.
I think that he's loving the wrong person.
He should love the woman he is marrying
to have a happy future with her.
- I think it's a concern too.
I think it's really important to express your love.
- That's right. - I hope he expresses his love more often.
- Please press the button if you think this is a concern.
5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
- Okay. - Stop.
- Our staff must be crazy.
How can they say this?
- But he does look like... - Right?
But he does look similar. A little...
- Right.
- A little...
- Our staff said that he looks like Kim Shin-young.
- Yes.
- She's laughing so hard.
- Taek-gi, please say "Brother."
Say "Brother."
- Brother.
- You should change your role model from Bae Jung-nam to Kim Shin-young.
- Kim Shin-young. - A male Kim Shin-young.
Let's see the result.
The last digit.
- I think Yang Taek-gi from Busan is way better than Bae Jung-nam.
Great.
- 112 votes.
- The title is 'I want to break it'.
- Wow.
- I'm a wife in my 40s, who is devastated from 10 years of marriage.
"Honey, come eat."
"Okay."
"Honey, are you going to sleep?"
"No."
"What are you going to do then?"
My husband treats me like a ghost
and he's always on his phone.
He looks at stuff like cartoons and baseball on his cellphone,
and then he would fall asleep.
When I was pregnant with my first child,
"Why did you marry me if you weren't even going to talk to me?"
"You should've married your cellphone."
"I'm so depressed."
"Oh really? Is this hard on you?"
"Let's get divorced then."
- Wow.
- I would bring up the courage to ask how his day was at work.
"How was it?"
"Why won't you talk?"
"Hey, I said I don't want to talk!"
"Be quiet. Don't talk to me."
- What?
- He would yell at me and then
look back on his cellphone and giggle. - What?
- I really want to smash his cellphone.
How can a married life be so miserable?
I can't take it anymore.
Please help me.
- Chan-woo, how's your married life?
- Do you talk a lot with your wife?
- I know how to talk.
- "Honey, how was your day?"
"How did the filming go?"
- Yes, it was good. It was fun. You have no idea how fun it was. Hahaha.
- Let's meet our guest now.
Please come out.
- Let's get straight to the question.
Your husband won't talk to you?
- He wasn't like this from the beginning.
When we were dating,
he used to be a sweet person, saying lines from a romantic movie...
- Like what line?
Something like,
"You shouldn't say you're sorry to your loved one"?
- "If you drink this, we are going out."
Something like this?
- That's...
- That seems a bit old.
You look at someone's eyes when you're communicating. - Right.
- But your husband won't look at you in the eyes?
- I would ask my husband to talk
and ask him what the problem is.
I told him once that "I don't think I'm happy in this marriage,"
and he came home right away.
He wanted to get a divorce.
- Right away? - He wouldn't listen to me.
He got angry instead.
And I would get upset. - Yes.
- Right. - So I would cry in the bathroom.
- You would cry.
- How did he say yes when
you asked him to come on this show?
- I thought this was my last chance.
What he said to me...
- It must've been really hurtful.
- She must have come on this show with great determination,
but I think her husband must've come with great determination too.
Let's meet him. Hello.
- Hello
- Is it true that you don't even look at your wife in the eyes
and you just look at your cellphone all the time?
- Yes, mostly.
I think most guys can relate to this.
You just feel tired after a long day at work,
and you just want to lie on your bed.
My job is to repair cars, so...
- It's very tiring. - It's tiring both physically and mentally.
So I pass out when I get home.
So I would lie down and watch TV,
or watch cartoons or baseball on my cellphone.
I think that's why we stopped talking.
- He talks really well.
- Right.
He talks really well.
What would you do when he comes back from work?
- The kids would call dad when he gets home.
- They must talk to him. - I would prepare our meal
and he would just
talk very briefly.
He would just answer in short sentences.
Unless I ask him something,
he wouldn't say much.
He wouldn't talk unless I ask him first.
- It's a one-sided communication.
- You came on this show today.
You could have a little conversation with your wife.
- It's annoying to talk to her.
Because I'm annoyed, I can't talk with her and then I get angry.
- Do you not like the way she talks? Or...
- I fought with my wife a lot when we were a newlywed.
- When you were a newlywed? - Yes.
We fought over so many little things.
- But still, how can you
mention divorce so easily?
- Like you were waiting.
- Did you want to teach her a lesson or something?
- I thought that I should have an authority as a man.
- As a man
- I don't want to divorce her though.
- Wow. - She's telling you that
she's not happy in her marriage.
Then you should first ask her why.
- Yes, that's right. - You don't have to understand her.
You should ask her why she feels that way.
- But when I walk in...
- When you look at her face.
- But when we talk face to face,
we end up talking about my family affair. - Wait a minute.
What do you mean?
- I had some family debt that my wife didn't know about.
- How much debt did you pay off? - So for years..
- My husband paid off his family debt for 5 years.
It would be easier if it was one person's debt.
- It's a family debt. - My husband is taking all the burden.
I just hated that.
- And he has other siblings?
- Yes.
I had to keep asking my parents for financial support.
That was a stress for me.
I was so stressed out that
I would throw up everything I eat. - You were very sensitive.
That was the fundamental issue.
- If she talks badly of my parents,
or talks badly about my siblings,
I would get angry at her.
And I wouldn't talk to her.
- The one thing that husband and wife
shouldn't talk about is...
- Their family. - Their family.
- Right. - It wouldn't upset her as much
if you would console her
and said you were sorry.
Didn't you try to console her?
- I would go home to console her.
- But you can't. - As you talk...
- I have a big voice.
When I talk to her, I have a big voice.
You get a big voice
when you're doing car repairs. - That's right.
- Because you can't hear well.
- My voice gets louder even when I don't realize it.
So she would think that I'm angry
when I talk really loudly.
- When you're not angry.
- She would tell you not to be angry.
- She tells me to talk quietly.
She says "Why are you talking so loudly?"
"Keep your voice down."
"The kids will hear."
And then we would start fighting.
I didn't mean to fight with her at all.
- You didn't.
- If he normally has a loud voice...
- Can't you just accept it?
- Can't you just understand him?
- He doesn't just have a loud voice.
- His voice sounds angry. - Yes.
That's why we end up fighting. - Then you should speak loudly too.
"You're not angry, right?"
Like this.
"I almost misunderstood. Hahaha"
- I wish I could joke about it too,
but he wouldn't joke around at all.
- He has no sense of humor. - Not at all.
I would get over it if he made a joke. - Yes, that's right.
- That's why our conversations don't go so well.
- What I'm really worried about
is how your kids feel when you're fighting. - Right.
- Kids get so scared when parents fight. - That's right.
- They would look at cellphones like their dad...
- While they're listening to you fight.
- They would just look at their cellphones.
- They are trying to ignore it.
Trying to ignore the reality. - Yes.
- They can hear everything,
but they don't want to admit it.
Because it's so hard on them.
- What I'm most worried about is
my son who is always looking at cellphone.
He would look at a cellphone while he's eating at a dinner table.
He would fall asleep while looking at his cellphone.
- How old are your children? - They are 6 and 9 years old.
When they are talking,
they would sometimes talk roughly. - Like swearing.
- Do you think that they are
copying from their dad?
- Yes. - Of course.
- We asked for a photo of their daily lives.
- Yikes.
- Wow.
Wow.
Look at how he's sitting. - Is that your eldest son?
That's when he was younger.
- He's something special.
Look at how he's sitting.
- You shouldn't let them use cellphones too much when they're that young.
- Your husband must also see how serious this is.
What did he say about the kids?
- He would let them look at cellphones if he's in a good mood.
But the kids are acting up or he's not in a good mood... - And then what?
- He would tell them to stop looking at the cellphone and go to sleep.
He's not being consistent,
so I would complain to my husband.
And it leads to fighting again.
- Let's meet the eldest son.
Hi. - Hi.
- Hello.
- Hi.
- So cute.
- Do you like to play games?
- Yes.
- Which game do you like the most?
- There's a game called XXX,
and it's really fun so I want to keep playing it.
- Really?
- Who gets the most angry if you play too much games?
- Dad would count 1, 2, 3 and he would get really mad if I don't turn it off.
- Yes, most dads like to count down.
- My dad would count 1, 2, 3... and I would behave.
- Once I was counting but my kid wasn't behaving, so I was like
1, 2, 3, 4, 5.
Like this.
Like I was going to count to10... - 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6...
- How does your dad scold you?
- He would hit me with a stick. - Yikes.
- And mom would hit me more.
- Why do you hit your kids?
- Nice.
Say it all.
- How do you feel when your dad hits you?
- I get bad thoughts.
- What thought?
- I get angry and I get bad thoughts.
- What bad thoughts?
- I feel like yelling at dad.
- Do you feel like swearing at him? - No.
- Do you wonder why your dad won't let you on the cellphone when he's always on it?
- Yes. - He could feel that way.
- Do you see your parents fight a lot?
- Yes.
- You've seen them fight a lot? Aye...
- How do you feel when you see them fight?
- I feel like crying.
- Oh no.
- Have you ever seen them
saying that they love each other?
Giving each other hugs.
- He doesn't know what that is because he's never seen it.
- Right. - What is the younger brother thinking?
- It seems like he's about to cry.
Give him the mic.
- "I have to speak out my thoughts."
"I have to speak out my thoughts."
- What is your name?
- Okay, okay.
Do you scold your son for looking at the cellphone too much?
- When I go home after work,
my wife or kids should be welcoming me.
- Right.
- But my kids would be on cellphones 70-80% of the time.
So I feel down as soon as I walk in.
So I would scold my kids.
But my wife would be like,
"Why are you scolding the kids?"
"You don't deserve to scold them."
And then I would end up fighting with her.
- Don't you think that you should change first then?
When you get home,
you can talk to the kids first
and tell them to come out and talk...
- I tried a couple times. - Someone needs to change.
- Of course. I spend some time playing with the kids.
They really like it.
And I think I should do it more often.
But it's hard when I have such a difficult job.
I have back stenosis,
so I can't play with them for too long.
- I have a job too.
And I have to do all the work around the house
and even look after the kids.
It's stressful for me too.
When he's playing with the kids,
we would decide how many times
he would play with the kids.
And when he's done he would stop.
The kids love playing with their dad,
so they would ask him to play with them more.
But since he doesn't want to play with them any more, he would get angry.
He would ask why they would keep
asking for him to play more.
- It's not a good ending.
- Are you happy when your dad plays with you?
Is it fun?
- Yes.
- Do you like playing with dad? - Yes.
- Will you stay off you cellphone if dad plays with you?
- Yes. - Really?
Do you like playing with dad more than playing games on cellphone?
- Yes. - Don't lie.
Be honest.
What do you like more, your dad or games?
- Dad. - It's dad.
- What do you like to do with your dad?
- He loves it.
- I like playing with a top. - Playing with a top.
- And flipping paper disks. - Flipping paper disks.
- I like when he give me an airplane ride on his feet.
- Does your dad win the paper disks from you?
- He could.
- Does he play with them once a week now?
- Not at all. Maybe once a month.
I get off work at 7 pm in the winter and 6 pm in the summer.
- Then why don't you play with them just for 30 minutes each day.
Then they wouldn't use cellphones so much.
- I know that.
- But you can't? - It's hard, right?
- My body can't handle it.
- You should still play with them.
They are your kids.
Even if you're tired. - I would try but after a while,
I get tired and then angry.
- Since you won't play with them,
they found a way to play by themselves.
- He said that he wants to play with the kids
but he can't because of his back pain.
What do you think about that?
Shouldn't you understand him a little?
- He got treatments for that,
and now it got a lot better.
But he would sit on the massage chair.
- And look at his cellphone. - Yes.
- I think we should ask a third person.
Who is the lady beside your son?
- My older sister.
- Older sister. Hello.
- Hello.
- Can you understand your sister's concern?
- Yes, I can.
I understand that his back hurts.
But we all get sick as we get older.
I have back pain too.
But my husband is good at playing with the kids.
He would play with them for hours.
I don't think my brother-in-law is not very good at it.
I think he is just as
immature as the kids.
That's a little disappointing.
- I'll ask the husband first.
Do you think that your wife changed from how she used to be?
- Yes, I think she changed a lot.
- How has she changed?
- She used to talk very gently before our first child was born.
But now she talks very negatively.
- And?
From what your wife said before,
it seemed like you said a lot of romantic things to her.
Like "I want to swim in your pretty eyes."
Why did you stop saying it all of a sudden?
- Even if I try to talk to her,
she would be very negative about it.
So I would end up just not talking,
and this distance would grow between us.
- From then...
- You just didn't try.
- After hearing this story,
I feel like I had a similar situation as the husband.
I had some issues with my family's debts,
and I had to take the burden.
So actually that's why
I gave up on marriage.
I didn't want to share my burden with anyone else.
The husband's biggest fault
is that he loved his wife.
- Right.
- He was supposed to take care of his family, but he got married.
This is very similar to my situation.
Watching them makes me realize that it's a good thing I didn't get married.
- Why does it end up to that?
- It's self-consolidation.
- But you know this.
You were in a difficult situation,
but you kept it a secret to marry her because you loved her so much.
- Yes. - He said it.
- Did you love her that much?
- Yes, a lot.
- Did you love her to death?
- I will save her even if I would die.
With my life. - Really?
- This is... - What is he saying?
- That must be his funniest joke.
- Right.
- She's happy but also shy,
because he never said something like this to her.
She keeps saying
"He must be crazy."
"Oh my goodness, he must be crazy."
- Have you ever heard him say something like this after you got married?
- No, I haven't.
- How do you feel?
- I feel upset, because it took me so long to hear that.
- Because you just heard it. - Because he didn't say it before.
- Why didn't he say it before?
- No, you should say that
you're really happy.
- But why didn't you say that before?
Your wife is upset.
- She wouldn't be upset if you said this when you guys fought.
But you didn't.
- It's not that I didn't say it.
But because I have a loud voice... - "I'll save you even if I die!"
"Okay?"
Is this what you said?
Having a loud voice is not an excuse.
- You probably didn't express your feelings either, right?
- Do you ever say things like
-"Thank you, honey"?
- I don't say it on purpose.
Because my husband is acting like that.
- You two are the same.
- What do you want your husband
to fix the most?
- I wish he would talk kindly to the kids
and play really hard with them at least once a week.
- That's all you ask for. - Yes, yes.
- Do you have any days off?
Completely off?
- I would have one weekend shift a month and I'm off for the rest of the weekends.
- Just play with them for 1-2 hours outside.
- I take them out every weekend.
- Really? - My sister-in-law sitting beside me
lives in Damyang, where I take the kids to very often.
- Isn't it so that you can rest
while your kid's uncle looks after them?
- Is there something that
you wish from your wife?
- I wish that she would trust me
when I'm with the kids.
But she can't stand it.
Maybe I made her be like that but she just won't wait for me.
I hope that she wouldn't budge in.
- You should just leave him.
If you think he went too far,
you should tell him then.
When the kids are not around.
If you keep complaining to him in front of the kids,
his father figure would be destroyed.
If she trusts you a little more,
would you play with the kids more often?
And look less at your cellphone?
- I'll be a 90% dad.
- 90%.
- It's a good thing you came here, right? - Yes.
- How do you call your husband?
- Honey. - Honey?
- Yes. - Honey.
- But you fight so much.
- I know. - Fighting is another issue.
- Do you fight like this?
- Honey.
- Honey, I wanted to give everything up until recently...
But...
I couldn't give up because of our Ji-woo and Gun-woo,
so that's why I came on the show.
As much as we love them,
we should try to become good parents and good husband and wife,
and live until we are 100 years old.
- I don't know much about married life,
But I remember being very scared and nervous when I saw my parents fight. - Yes.
- Right. Is this a concern?
- It's a concern. - Of course.
- I think it's a concern too.
- I don't think it's a concern.
- It's not a concern?
- I think they both came here today
because they still love each other. - Of course.
- They can work it out with love.
- Please press the button if you can relate to this concern.
- 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
- When I first saw the husband, I thought he was really good looking.
- He is very handsome.
- He has great features.
- Isn't he handsome?
I think he is.
- Right.
She told me that she married him because of his body.
- As I'm on this show, I realize that
problems are caused when people don't express their emotions.
Please come on the stage to say something to your wife.
- Really?
I don't want to look.
Yikes.
Really.
- Like this.
- She has great style.
- He has western figure. - Yes.
- She married him because of his body.
- Why don't you propose to her?
- Please show more of this to your kids.
- Look in each other's eyes.
- Su-jeong,
I'm sorry to hurt your feelings.
I'm sorry that I gave you a hard time,
but I'll try to change and look at your eyes more often.
Let's trust each other more.
I love you. - Kiss each other.
Here, here.
Kiss right here.
Look at the kids smile.
Watching their parents.
- She's crying.
The kids are crying.
- They're crying.
- Aww. - Because they're so happy.
- Why are you crying?
- It's touching to see his parents like this.
- Would you rather play games or watch your parents kiss?
I can't see this again.
- A 6-year old is crying.
- Aww.
- This is so great.
A third child may be on the way.
- I'm sure there will be a change. - Yes.
I'll try to change.
- Okay.
- Let's see how many people
out of 200 think that this is a concern.
- The last digit is 0.
How many votes did we get?
130 votes.
- Thank you.
- This concern is called 'Pretty please'.
I'm not sure how this will turn out.
She has big nerves.
- Hello.
I'm a wife from Gwangju, who has been married for 5 years.
Today, I think I might be doing
the most daring thing in my life
I'm about to expose my father-in-law.
- A daughter-in-law?
- Every night, my father-in-law goes
into his room and locks his door.
"Are you in there?"
"What are you doing?"
"Hello?"
- "Hey, stop knocking on the door."
- My father-in-law drinks alcohol
every night in his dark room.
- He locks his doors?
- We have 40-50 empty soju bottles at the end of the month.
My father-in-law is also a heavy smoker.
While he is sleeping at night.
- *Cough cough*
- "Are you okay?"
'I'm going to smoke a cigarette."
- In fact, the first thing that my baby daughter said was...
- "Granny, no alcohol."
"No cigarettes."
- The first thing that the baby said.
- And our 2-year old niece pretends to smoke a cigarette.
- 2 years old? Please show us again.
- That looks like a 2-year old.
- Is this hard to believe?
This is only the tip of the iceberg.
Please help me stop my father-in-law.
- It's not easy for a daughter-in-law
to expose things about her father-in-law.
Let's meet our guest now.
Please come out.
- Hello-o-o.
- Hello.
- You're probably careful to talk about your in-laws.
Are you going to be okay?
- But my father-in-law drinks and smokes too much...
- You are worried about his health.
- I'm very worried.
- You don't have any trouble with your husband?
Right? - Of course.
That's why we have 3 children.
- Oh, really? - Yes.
- I wonder how much he drinks and smokes.
- My father-in-law is 61 years old.
And... - He's not that old.
- He's been drinking soju everyday for the last 20 years.
- How many?
- 2 bottles.
Everyday.
Even when he's sick with cold.
He also smokes a lot.
He would smoke a cigarette every hour.
- But why does he drink alone in a dark room?
- I don't get it either.
- After dinner, he goes into his room
and drinks soju with the TV on.
- That sounds relaxing.
- So he doesn't drink during dinner?
- He would drink during dinner and drink whatever is left over in his room.
- So he continues his drinking. - Yes.
- He goes to 2nd round in his room? - Alone.
- Do you live with your father-in-law?
- No, we live really close
so we visit him very often.
My sons are 5 years, 3 years and 5 months old.
Since they see him drinking a lot, they would imitate drinking.
- Doing cheers.
- They're curious. - Yes.
They once drank alcohol by accident.
- They thought it was water?
- They thought it was water.
My brother-in-law lives with him.
So my niece sees him smoke a lot,
and she would pretend to smoke.
- A 2-year old.
- She does this.
- "Arg"? Why?
- He goes to poop after smoking.
- He smokes while pooping.
Have you ever talked to your father-in-law about this?
- Even if I do, he wouldn't listen.
He said that he would quit smoking if I had my first child.
But he didn't.
And then said he would quit smoking when I had my second child.
But he didn't quit, so I told him to really quit when I had my third child.
And then he said he would quit if my youngest son said "Granny, stop smoking."
- You should have a 4th child.
And your kids are pretending to smoke.
- Yes. - It's a problem.
Let's meet the father-in-law.
Who drinks and smokes in front of the kids.
- He looks very friendly.
- Hello, nice to meet you.
How did you feel when your daughter-in-law
asked you to come on this show?
- Would this be much of a concern?
- Would this be?
- I don't do stuff like
gambling or anything.
I just drink and smoke.
- Most people who came on our show had excuses like
"I'm just playing games. It's not like I drink or smoke."
We never had anyone mention gambling.
- Because he's already drinking and smoking.
- What do you watch when you're drinking in your room?
- I live with my granddaughter.
She kept imitating me drink, so I thought it was bad for her education.
So I would go into my room and drink.
- Because of your grandchildren.
- So I would watch TV and drink, to wrap up the day.
- I think he is worried about the kids.
- He seems to be caring. - Isn't he being considerate?
- He lives in a house.
When the kids are playing in the backyard he would be smoking on the other side.
He would hold the kids' hands with one hand and a cigarette with the other.
- While he is smoking? - He would turn back and smoke.
- It's second-hand smoking.
- When he's pushing the stroller, he would smoke too.
- Smoking while pushing a stroller.
- Holding the stroller with one hand.
- That's... - Isn't this a bit strange?
- I smoke in the direction against the wind.
- That's nonsense...
- In the opposite direction.
- The kids would sometimes grab the lighter.
- In the kids' hands.
- And when he comes back after smoking,
he used to wash his hands at first.
But now he doesn't wash his hands before touching the kids.
If I ask him to wash his hands, he tells me not to be so fastidious.
He tells me that it's fine.
- Even when I was younger,
adults would smoke cigarettes around kids all the time.
Even holding the baby while smoking.
- Right. - And they used to smoke everywhere inside the house.
- There was no common sense on cigarettes back then.
So you might be hesitant to
visit your father-in-law's house sometimes.
- I have three children,
so I'm worried to be honest.
But my father-in-law really likes me.
- Congratulations. - Yes, thank you.
- You're loved by her father-in-law.
- Yes.
If I nag at him about his smoking,
he would get sulky.
- Sulky? - Yes.
Once he had a fight with my mother-in-law and
he didn't talk for a month.
- They would nag about my drinking and smoking,
and sometimes I just don't want to hear about it.
So I wouldn't talk. - That's being sulky.
- Isn't it hard not to talk for a month?
- It's more convenient for me.
- Wow, so sulky.
- Your mother-in-law must be very concerned as well.
- She must be the most concerned. - That's right.
- Hello.
- Wow.
So beautiful.
It seems like you didn't get any second-hand smoking.
You look so beautiful.
- No.
My face is polluted.
- Polluted. - Can you understand your daughter-in-law's concern?
- Of course.
I spent my entire life fighting with my husband about his drinking and smoking.
When he throws away the cigarette butts in our backyard,
They would pretend to smoke with the cigarette butts.
Imagine how upsetting that is.
- Does your husband really not talk when he is upset?
- He gets sulky if I nag at him.
When he gets really drunk,
he would go out to the patio thinking that it's the bathroom.
So I would stop him.
And the next day, he would play innocent.
Sometimes he wouldn't talk for a month or even more.
One time he actually made a mistake.
On the patio.
- I think he'll get mistaken.
- I don't really care now...
- You don't care much? - He gets sulky too much.
- A match made in heaven.
- There's a laundry detergent box in the laundry room.
And he thought that it was the toilet.
But he would keep denying it.
- How can you deny that?
Your wife wouldn't do something like that, right?
- You never know.
- What sober person would do that?
- Is this how he acts?
- How do you appease him when he's upset?
- He never skips a meal.
So he would eat well if I prepare him a meal.
- This is how you will be when you get older.
- Maybe you shouldn't have prepared his meal.
- He drinks a lot, so if he skips a meal
he'll get sick and that's my loss.
- Why do you get so sulky?
- I didn't get sulky.
- That's being sulky.
- It's being upset. - That's being sulky.
- You're sulky if you're not talking.
- You didn't talk for a month, right?
You didn't talk. You didn't want to talk, right?
- No, I wanted to talk.
- That's being sulky.
- How many cigarettes do you smoke in a day?
- I used to smoke one pack a day.
- And now? - He must smoke less now.
- I smoke one pack a half now...
- He smokes more.
- Usually they reduce it.
- How much can you drink?
When you drink the most. - I've never been drunk.
- What do you mean you've never been drunk?
You made a mistake on the patio.
- Did you do it on purpose?
- So you've never been drunk nor sulky before.
- Don't you get dizzy when you drink?
- He's not a bad drunk.
- He's not a bad drunk?
He just...
- That's being a bad drunk.
- No, this is being a bad drunk.
He just acts normally like this.
That's not being a bad drunk.
- And then he can't remember the next day. - "I didn't do it."
- "I'm not talking."
- If your in-laws are not talking,
it must be awkward for you.
- When he's sulky.
- I can feel the tension when I go to their house.
When we're eating dinner,
he would tell us to ask mother-in-law.
to bring something for him.
He would say that when our mother-in-law is right beside him.
- Really?
- And I...
- And she doesn't answer.
- It's awkward for me.
She wouldn't answer.
- Talking to your wife through your daughter-in-law,
that's being sulky.
- Isn't it? - No, it's not being sulky.
- Then what is it?
- It means that I want to start talking to her again.
- That you want to start talking to her again?
- Then why don't you just talk to her?
"Honey I want some Kimchi. I'm sorry."
Isn't that more convenient?
- Then I'm really sulky.
- What comes before that then?
- You're being a medium for their communication.
- They're your in-laws after all.
What does your husband do then?
- At that time? - At that time.
- When they were not talking.
- My husband doesn't have much to say.
He's pretty much the same. - Why?
- He likes drinking and smoking too.
- Your husband drinks a lot too?
- He goes to his parents' house often so that he can drink.
When he's not at his parents' house,
he would drink with his meal just like his father.
- What do you think about your son
who drinks and smokes as much as you?
- It's his life so he'll take care of himself.
I can't tell him what to do with it.
- Are you going to get sulky again?
- No.
- Your wife says you're just like your father.
Then do you understand
your father's drinking and smoking?
- I can relate to him as a man.
I'm quit smoking and I'm reducing my drinking,
because I don't want to
show anything bad to my kids.
- Is it true that he quit smoking and he reduced his drinking?
- Yes, officially.
- Officially.
- What about unofficially?
- And you would smoke a cigarette when you're drinking with your friend?
- No, no. - You don't?
- Yes. Uhh...
I don't think I do. - I don't think he smokes.
- Be honest. Did you secretly smoke?
When you said you quit smoking?
Be honest.
- His face can't lie.
- Actually....
- Look at his face.
- This is my father's concern.
- What?
- This is his father's concern!
Are you going to get sulky?
- I'm not like that.
- Really?
What are you the most worried about your father?
- My father used to be a police officer,
and he used to have a strong body.
But after his retirement, he would keep smoking and drinking in his room.
And he's getting skinnier.
- Because it seems like he is going down the .
- After his retirement.
- One day, I saw his back and he looked just like my grandfather.
It was really upsetting to see
how his body was weakening.
I started to get really worried about it.
- How do you feel hearing this?
- I feel thankful.
My father got Alzheimer's disease
as he got older.
That's why he passed away.
But I don't think our family has any health issues.
- How old was your father when he got Alzheimer's disease?
- When he was 78 years old.
- Don't you think that he might've gotten Alzheimer's disease later
if he drank and smoked a little less?
- I don't know if it was because of his drinking and smoking.
- Well, yes...
- Even if he passed away,
the quality of his life before passing away matters.
- You're worried about his health, right?
- My father used to drink and smoke
a lot like my father-in-law.
He passed away at 59 years old.
I was 20 years old at the time.
When I look at my father-in-law, he reminds me of my father.
He says that he is healthy,
but I see my father in him.
And I'm worried that he might leave us all of a sudden like my father did.
- Do you take medical exams often?
- Like blood tests. - He got a comprehensive test.
He had a high liver index,
so the doctor said that he needs to reduce his drinking. - The doctor.
- The doctor said that he needs regular exams.
But he drank even on that evening.
- Yikes.
After his gastroscope?
- Did you really drink after your gastroscope?
- He's sulky right now.
- You think this is silly too, right?
- Are you not going to talk for a month now?
- Are you stressed out so much from something
that you need to rely on drinking and smoking?
- I retired after being a civil servant.
So I had to deal with a lot of civil complaints.
- I heard it's very stressful.
- I couldn't smoke even if I wanted to
because it would smell.
So I refrained.
I can't just stay at home at this age.
So I'm working somewhere else.
I could stop drinking, but I like drinking.
I feel relaxed when I drink.
- When you're drinking.
When you're alone in your room?
- I shouldn't drink as much, but I try not to get stressed out too.
- That's your philosophy.
- I want to stay positive.
I don't know how long I will live,
but I want to live stress-free as long as I live.
- You lived a hard life.
- I don't want to say anything about that.
Because I'm like that too.
- He said that he wants to do
whatever he wants as long as he live.
How do you feel about this?
Just say it.
It's okay.
- He often says that if he gets sick, he will just die.
That he doesn't want to live for long.
- Does he say that?
- He says that
he doesn't care if he dies fast.
But he's 62 years old now.
He has 4 grandchildren
and they are all growing up so well.
- It must be upsetting.
- It'll be sad if he gets sick. - Yes.
- It's upsetting. - Of course.
I heard that he coughs a lot too.
- He coughs so loudly at night.
But he would still smoke while coughing. - Smoking late at night is really bad.
- I wish that he would quit smoking and be healthy
so that we can travel and watch our grandchildren grow together.
But he just won't listen.
- You are extremely lucky that
you drank and smoked until you're 62 years old
and you didn't get sick.
- Yes. - So you still have an opportunity.
- Right. - I'll just be honest with you.
You say that you're healthy even if you drink and smoke,
but I thought your wife was your daughter-in-law.
You don't look like a 61-year old.
- You can tell that he drinks everyday by looking at his skin tone.
- Very dark. - I thought you were a farmer or a fisher.
But you were civil servant.
- Most 61 year-olds are still active in society. - It's youth.
- Your family is all really worried,
did you ever think about quitting smoking and drinking?
- I always think about it.
About reducing it.
I tried quitting for months.
But it just didn't work.
- You say that it doesn't matter if you die early.
But you don't die that easily.
You'll get Alzheimer's or some other disease
and your family has to take the burden and take care of you.
- I'm worried about that.
- Right.
- Then you should quit.
- You said that you want to enjoy the rest of your life.
- What do you want to do?
- I want to travel with my wife.
- You should quit drinking and smoking
to be able to travel around.
Since you're older and wiser, you should know better.
So I'll leave it up to your judgment,
so you can show us what's good.
- I think she's a good daughter-in-law. - Right.
- A happy family.
- It's not easy for a daughter-in-law
to care this much about her father-in-law. - Right.
- That's why her father-in-law loves her so much.
- It's such a blessing.
- If you have something to say.
- Please tell your father-in-law.
Tell him you're going to smoke if he doesn't quit.
- That's a good idea.
- If I didn't like the kids to be around your smoking,
I wouldn't go visit your house.
I hope you would understand that I'm genuinely worried about your health.
I hope you would quit smoking and
you can watch your grandchildren grow up and get married.
And please keep loving me.
- She has such a kind heart.
Let's start with Dool-sun.
- I think it's a concern.
If he passes away,
they must feel a sense of guilt
that they couldn't stop his unhealthy habits.
That is very heartbreaking.
- I think it's a concern too.
Granddaughter?
- Grandchildren.
- He should be careful of that...
- Be aware of your granddaughter.
- I think it's a concern too.
I can tell that they are a happy family,
and I hope that he'll take care of his precious health.
- Please press the button if you can relate to this concern.
- 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
Stop. - It's over.
- Please say something to your daughter-in-law.
Such a lovely daughter-in-law.
- I'll try to quit smoking.
- Great.
Bravo.
- I only have 2 sons.
So I think of my daughter-in-law as my daughter.
Sometimes she would keep a distance between us.
- You wanted to hear her say "Dad'.
- Yes.
- Say "Dad, please quit smoking."
- Dad, dad.
- Let's live happily from now on.
- Okay, dad.
- Please ease up on the soju.
- Yes.
- To your beautiful wife...
- I'll decrease my consumption.
- Please say something to your wife.
- I didn't talk much because I was so stressed out from work,
but I wasn't sulky or anything.
- He's so cute.
- Let's live happily from now on.
- You said you're not sulky, but you are.
Please show us how many votes.
- The last digit is 9.
Is it over 100 votes?
It is.
- 109?
109?
139 votes.
- Yes. - This is the most votes we got today.
This is how much they are worried about your health.
- 'Pretty please' takes this week's victory.
Here is a $1,000 prize.
- For a healthy nation without concerns.
- We are always on your side.
- Thank you.
- Good-bye.